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It’s more about them than it is about you.

Everyone’s on edge. It isn’t always your fault.

Someone flipped you off in traffic, your boss flipped out at you when you did something small that annoyed them, someone said something God-awful to you in a comment on social media, your partner blew up at you and stormed off after a stressful week.

Relax. You’re going to take it personally, but 9 times out of 10, It’s more about them than it is about you.

It’s easy to take the blame for something someone throws at you in a moment of frustration. It’s a common response to stress to project it onto other people. There are numerous psychological reasons people project, but as the projected, you need to be prepared to accept that someone’s projection doesn’t mean you are lacking.

We’re living in a time in a history where there are precisely 10 billion reasons for people to be under a lot of stress. Some people deal with it better than others. It is important that you don’t respond to those who deal with it poorly in kind. If you match their madness, it never ends well.

If it’s really about you, you’ll know about it.
Otherwise, take a breath, and repeat to yourself:

It’s more about them than it is about you.

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